After an unfortunate turn of events earlier in the year, all 3 of my kids now have self defence lessons every week.
Today their Instructor 'pushed a button' and one of my kids started to break down, emotionally.
Their Instructor immediately stopped, walked over and put his arm around them, told them to let it all out and stood with them with his arm around them as they cried. He then used a circuit breaker activity to move on from it and was beautifully gentle for the rest of the lesson.
Afterward they *child* told me that they felt a bit embarrassed for crying but their Instructor had made them feel safe in doing so and that they believed they would be safe to continue to release the emotional pressure caused earlier this year, with their Instructor.
What a genuine and strong second male role model for my kids, other than their father. Money can't even buy that kind of authenticity.